Open up your mind and your potential reaches infinity…


A Mama bird had many chirpy chicks. One was very silent and lost in his world always.

Mama bird: Why don’t you tweet like your other siblings?
Quiet chick: I cant just tweet in the air like these dumb chicks. I need a laptop to log in and #Tweet.

Origins of Mother’s Day:

On a serious note movement of Mothers Day began as a proclamation against the horrors of American Civil War in 1870 by Julia Ward Howe:

Mother’s Day Proclamation (1870)
by Julia Ward Howe

Arise then … women of this day!
Arise, all women who have hearts!
Whether your baptism be of water or of tears!
Say firmly:
“We will not have questions answered by irrelevant agencies,
Our husbands will not come to us, reeking with carnage,
For caresses and applause.
Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn
All that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience.
We, the women of one country,
Will be too tender of those of another country
To allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs.”

From the voice of a devastated Earth a voice goes up with
Our own. It says: “Disarm! Disarm!
The sword of murder is not the balance of justice.”
Blood does not wipe our dishonor,
Nor violence indicate possession.
As men have often forsaken the plough and the anvil
At the summons of war,
Let women now leave all that may be left of home
For a great and earnest day of counsel.
Let them meet first, as women, to bewail and commemorate the dead.
Let them solemnly take counsel with each other as to the means
Whereby the great human family can live in peace …
Each bearing after his own time the sacred impress, not of Caesar,
But of God—
In the name of womanhood and humanity, I earnestly ask
That a general congress of women without limit of nationality,
May be appointed and held at someplace deemed most convenient
And the earliest period consistent with its objects,
To promote the alliance of the different nationalities,
The amicable settlement of international questions,
The great and general interest of #PEACE.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY   


What I saw all day on FB was that EVERYONE was touched by Sabeen’s generosity by some way or the other. And that was her legacy….to happily keep helping everyone who she could if the cause was good. And this last act of not estimating the danger was one of that act to help out when no one else was doing it.

I have a story too, of how she went out of the way to help me just a month ago. Just on one whatsapp request, when she was next day traveling to US for 2 weeks and CLF was beginning 3 days later. I asked her if there any way our art campaign can be part of CLF?
A few hours later I received on WhatsApp: “I talked to CLF, they will provide a booth, and with two of their own volunteers conduct the workshop on all days for “A Peaceful Pakistan, Pakistan For All” art campaign. I am traveling in the morning, but I have assigned two (names) in my office to carry on the work, they will print 1000 copies of the posters, and send them to CLF, and to stay connected to you.”
As a result…in 3 days of Children’s Literature Festival we got 3 huge murals and 500 paintings& models from school children, which rest in Karachi at CLF office for our art project- A Peaceful Pakistan, Pakistan For All.

This whole incident kept haunting me for the time I slept.

Point is: I want to Carry Forward Sabeen’s favor to me by going out of the way to offer my help to ONE person at least, PROACTIVELY each day, till next Eid (about 2 months)>

Helping out does not mean only to a certain ‘kind’ of needy people in Thar or Muzaffargarh or Baluchistan. It also means helping each other without bothering if this is my agenda or not, when it is a worthy cause is also what Sabeen’s legacy is.

I don’t want this fine quality of Sabeen be lost in the politics of serious issues she supported and actively advocated for. That struggle can continue in its own right.

This is my tribute to Sabeen Mahmud, with her own words about T2F.
(A hand painted silk scarf)

Sabeen1

sabeen2


may day

Mehnat se yeh maana chuur hain hum
Aaraam se koson door hain hum
Par larne par majboor hain hum
Mazdoor hain hum mazdoor hain hum.

Go aafaat-o-gham ke maare hain
Hum khaak nahin taarey hain
Iss jag ke rrajdulaare hain
Mazdoor hain hum mazdoor hain hum.

Ban-ne ki tamanna rakhtey hain
Mitne-ne ka kaleja rakhtey hain
Sarkash hain sar ooncha rakhtey hain
Mazdoor hain hum mazdoor hain hum.

Go jaan pe laakhon baar banee
Ker guzrey jo jee mein thi thaani
Hum dil ke khare baaton ke dhani
Mazdoor hain hum mazdoor hain hum.

Hum jism mein taaqat rakhtey hain
Seenon mein harraarat rakhtey hain
Hum azm-e-baghaavat rakhtey hain
Mazdoor hain hum mazdoor hain hum.

Jiss roz baghaawat ker dengey
Duniya mein qayaamat ker dengey
Khwaabon ko haqeeqat ker dengey
Mazdoor hain hum mazdoor hain hum.

by Asrar Ul Haq Majaaz

labour1


Tick tock tick tock tick tock,
Goes time, mercilessly,
Dragging us along in chains,
To keep up, to catch up, to hurry up,
Be enslaved? I refuse, I rebel.
Neither a prisoner of the past,
Nor a conqueror of the future,
Not even a hostage of the present,
Slow, fast, run, stand,  whatever,
On no one else’s pace, only my own.
And this  quest landed me
On the two pieces of art below,
Ending the search of my Nirvana.

GET DRUNK

Always be drunk.
That’s it!
The great imperative!
In order not to feel
Time’s horrid fardel
bruise your shoulders,
grinding you into the earth,
Get drunk and stay that way.
On what?
On wine, poetry, virtue, whatever.
But get drunk.
And if you sometimes happen to wake up
on the porches of a palace,
in the green grass of a ditch,
in the dismal loneliness of your own room,
your drunkenness gone or disappearing,
ask the wind,
the wave,
the star,
the bird,
the clock,
ask everything that flees,
everything that groans
or rolls
or sings,
everything that speaks,
ask what time it is;
and the wind,
the wave,
the star,
the bird,
the clock
will answer you:
“Time to get drunk!
Don’t be martyred slaves of Time,
Get drunk!
Stay drunk!
On wine, virtue, poetry, whatever!”
~ Charles Baudelaire.

DREAM: Painting by De La Cruz: “.…where paint explodes out of the soul into the canvas.”

drunk2

Moral: Be drunk, then do what you dream.


Fasih ilmana 001

On Eid soon after the wedding: finding harmony


We argued, we fought, like any other couple. But we made it, thanks to our conscious decision to not let cross-border politics derail our relationship

By Ilmana Fasih

Jaaney kya tuu ne kahi, jaane kya main ney suni, baat kuchh ban hii gayee…”
(Wonder what you said, wonder what I heard, but we still made it.)

I am sure I am not the only South Asian who finds a Bollywood song that feels like it was written for them.

This month, on 29 January 2015, it will be 25 years since we got married. Time seems to have passed in a blink. Not that it has all been a smooth walk through a garden of roses. But, occasionally traversing thorny paths, we have managed to emerge more resilient.

Being politically aware individuals, and as a Pakistani and an Indian respectively, both my husband and I knew it would be hard to prevent cross-border politics from affecting us. However, early on, after many thoughtful discussions, we vowed not to make our home a battlefield of political taunts. At the same time we used our political concerns to rise above emotional rhetoric and develop an objective outlook. When pessimists dismissed our aspirations of peace we would come up with statements like: “When fractured bones can heal why can’t India Pakistan relations?”

We learnt to be sensitive enough to respect the idiosyncrasies of our extended families on either side, and ignore those who used our presence as a cue to trigger India-Pakistan debates or even, I dare say, hate.

To my good fortune, my husband was strong enough to not take to heart the mocking of everything Pakistani by some of my Indian relatives when he visited India. I had my share of outbursts with his family in Pakistan only to mature with time and learn that what really mattered was our relationship and not what rest of the world said.

Looking back I can say we worked hard, really hard, to maintain our sanity. At times we went out of our way to shield each other from the hyper-patriots of our respective sides. And then consoled each other with, “Pity their ignorance; they don’t know what they are missing.”

We argued, we fought, like any other couple, but never over border politics. We needed to raise children who were confident and not confused about their identities and who could stand up as beacons of harmony, not hate. We are honoured that our two children grew up loving both countries, both peoples, and cherishing the beauty of their differences.

India-Pakistan moments came to our home only as jokes.

My son would ask his father, “Why did you have to marry an Indian who cooks bhindi?”

Pat would come the response, “Because she wore a bindi.”

As little children, they made valiant warriors and proud ambassadors for both sides. What more could a mother want?

My Indian family still remembers how a cousin joked with our five-year old Fatima during a picnic in Delhi: “Tumhara Pakistan ganda hai.” (Your Pakistan is dirty).

She responded innocently: “But the roads are dirty in India too. And like this Qutub Minar, Pakistan has a tall Minar-e-Pakistan. It is in Lahore. Mummy says Lahore is like Delhi.”

And how my son came to my rescue when in Pakistan, an extended family member in a gathering remarked, “The Ghauri-II missile has a range to reach up to New Delhi.”

My wide-eyed six-year old Ismail came running to me and whispered in my ear, “Ammi, no one can bomb Delhi. Don’t worry, Nani and Nana will be safe.”

All my anxiety and anger dissipated as he gave me a tight bear hug, insisting, “Hold me tight too Ammi.”

When they were little, the children were also teased in school that their Indian mother was a ‘traitor’. There were tearful moments for them, but there were far more occasions to rejoice and be able to enjoy the best of both places.

As adult now, my daughter takes pride in introducing herself as the “daughter of an Indian mother and a Pakistani father, who learnt very early that there are loved ones and not enemies on the other side.”

My son enjoys supporting both cricket teams, and even switching loyalties depending on which team is performing better.

Visa for us have not been a challenge except for occasionally. However, it is always painful to see how other divided families struggle for an almost impossible-to-obtain visa.

What hurts is the hatred spewed on electronic or social media that is so unnecessary, when what the region needs is positive energy.

It hurts that the naive on both sides fall easy prey to rhetoric, not realising that conflicts feed only a few hawks both sides. Why don’t they understand that with peace, everyone wins and with conflict we all lose.

It hurts that vested interests refuse to resolve age-old issues or move on to strive for a bright future for the billion strong youth of the region.

It hurts that our meager resources are spent on nuclear arsenal and war mongering, rather than being channeled to alleviate hunger, disease and poverty.

I often quote the poet Kunwer Mahinder Singh Bedi’s eloquently asked question to hawks on both sides:

Poochhna hai ab mujhe ye Hind-o-Pakistan se,
Peit bhookon ka bhoroge kya jang ke samaan se.
(I wish to ask both India and Pakistan,
Will you fill the hungry stomachs with weapons?)

It hurts that we exchange dead soldiers and arrested fishermen instead of exchanging of knowledge, expertise and resources from each side.

It even hurts that the people who are so close culturally and geographically are kept miles apart by almost impossible visa policies.

More than everything else what hurts is the fools we make of ourselves in front of rest of the world by our reputation as nations with multiple common enemies including poverty and violence against women, yet we are fighting each other.

Outsiders often ask, “Don’t you share a common history?
I retort as always, “Yes, we have the same DNA too.”
“Do you think peace is possible between your countries?”
“Do we have any other choice, but to peace? We have fought three wars and been involved in several conflicts. It’s time we give peace a chance for regional cooperation and coexist as peaceful neighbors.”

To those who understand Urdu, I simply quote Jagannath Azad’s couplet:

Siyasat ne jo khenchi hain hadein qayam rahein beshak,
Dilon ke hadd-e-faasil ko mitaa dene ka waqt aaya.
(Let the lines that are drawn by politics stay,
But it is time for hearts to mend the gap).

The writer is an Indian gynecologist married to a Pakistani. She dreams of a world without wars.She dreams of a world without wars.
Email:ilmana_fasih@hotmail.com
Blog:https://thinkloud65.wordpress.com

Wednesday, January 07, 2015

P.S. My sincere thanks to Aman ki Asha, of the Jang Group, The News for publishing my story. Link to the article in The News Aman Ki Asha is here >> http://amankiasha.com/detail_news.asp?id=1503


Child-hope

Was published in Pak Tea House here >>  http://pakteahouse.net/2014/12/31/can-we-spare-the-children-of-our-planet-from-violence/

Thousands of miles away, in a candle vigil for the children of the Peshawar attack, the Mayor of Mississauga, Ontario, Canada, Bonnie Crombie said,

“The children lost in Peshawar were not just Pakistani kids; they were our children, the children of this planet.”

I shuddered to imagine the paranoia of millions of parents in Pakistan on the day that their children will have to go back to school after winter break. And along with them, my mind wandered to the other children on the planet – the children who have lost their lives and so much more.

I couldn’t help but think of the 200 plus school girls that Boko Haram kidnapped in Nigeria. Will these girls ever be able to return to school again?

Last September, Gaza was short of almost 490 school-going children, as schools reopened after a 50-day war with Israel during the summers. Many of the kids who survived had lost their homes and family members. The Israeli kid who died after rockets were fired from Gaza was also a child of the same planet.

How can one not think of the millions of displaced children of Syria currently spending their fourth winter in refugee shelters, attending makeshift schools in the camps, while nearly 14,000 have perished?

My heart aches for the children who have been brutally beheaded by Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS) for not converting. Hearing the spine-chilling stories of Yazidi minor girls who are being sold as sex slaves makes me tremble.

“They will sell my girl for $10.”

This cry of a Kurd father from Sinjar haunts me to date. So does the recount of a 19-year-old  Yazidi girl who managed to escape:

“One day we were given clothes that looked like dance costumes and were told to bathe and wear them. One girl killed herself in the bathroom. She cut her wrists and hanged herself.”

In a lesser heard Central African Republican, almost 6,000 to 10,000 children  have been snatched of their school lives and have been forcibly recruited as child soldiers, some being as young as eight-years-old. There are child soldiers recruited by Iraqi militias and ISIS too. Amnesty International reports there are 250,000 child soldiers world over.

Closer to home, around the time of Malala Yousafzai’s incident, 12-year-old Mehzar Zehra  was shot on her way to school and while her father became the victim of target killing for being Shia. I also think of little Rimsha Masih, who had to languish in jail, and Aitzaz Hasan from Hangu, who lost his life while averting a bomb attack in his school. Let’s not forget the Hazara kids who either perished or were injured in Mastung and other attacks on the Hazara community. Let’s not forget the hundreds of children who have died during the drone attacks in Waziristan.

Forgive me for not being able to enumerate every child who was lost to meaningless wars happening around us.

Echoing Mayor Crombie, each of these are children of the same planet. And it is incumbent upon humanity to ensure them a safe childhood.

According to a UN report,

“More than one billion children under the age of 18 were living in areas in conflict or emerging from war. Of these, an estimated 300 million were under age five and more than 18 million children were refugees or internally displaced.”

As the calendar flips to 2015, there will hardly be anything new for these children. Those who have perished shall sleep below heaps of earth with their innocent dreams buried in their hearts. Those alive will continue to bear the trauma of bare survival, feeling lucky to have lived another day, no matter how.

This is not all.

Beyond active warfare, vested interests in media, state or faith-based groups also subject children to psychological abuse by preaching warmongering and hatred. A child’s video on Memri TV telling tender Palestinian children about evil Jews, a seven-year-old boy from a madrassa who sings jihad  against infidels, or a 10-year-old boy from a Gurukul who spews hate and desires to combat Muslims – these are just a few examples, and not a concoction of my mind. Even on social media, we violate war-torn kids by sharing gory pictures of disfigured or dead children to evoke emotional propaganda.

Is this the quality of life the children of our planet deserve?

Why are we so disgustingly insensitive about how detrimental something like this could be to a child’s health and potential? Would you put your child through this physical or psychological politics of hate and violence? Why do we fail to think of the long-lasting adverse consequences of violence on their tender minds and bodies in the form of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)?

Do these children even have an idea of the geopolitics, war on resources or hegemony of sects or tribes, for which they are subjected to the worst form of violations?

We take pride in the scientific advances which have reduced the child mortality to rate more than 70% in the last century. We also brag about the human progress, having created the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC), which recognizes that children are people who have rights that

must be respected equally to those of adults.  The convention has been ratified by majority of the world’s nations.

A lot may have been achieved in terms of legislations, and with the slogan of ‘every child counts’. However, one billion children living in conflict zones is a grim figure. Several UN reports reveal a change of war tactics, in current conflicts, that have made children more directly exposed to warfare. This only makes the future grimmer. http://www.un.org/rights/impact.htm

Hope is rekindled, time and again, when voices like Satyarthi or Malala or Edhi  are recognized? The bitter truth remains that the scale of war industry is too huge to be countered by few sincere souls.

Wars are not going to disappear overnight, but we can at least mitigate their effects and ensure that they do not target children and women. It may be a wishful thinking that warmongering ‘vested interests’ may be put aside someday for the sake of our  children. One wonders what is the critical number of affected children needed to get that.

With specific concerns for the children affected by violence, UNICEF has put forth an Anti-war Agenda enlisting a series of steps, which they believe are realistic and effective to  improve the well-being of children in situations of conflict.

The report says:

“The Anti-war Agenda rests on the proposition that much of the tragedy befalling children is preventable. The evil deeds that this report documents are, after all, driven by human behavior. Children are suffering as a direct and immediate consequence of the decisions of adults. If conflict seems, at times, to be inevitable, there is nothing inevitable about children bearing the brunt of its consequences. Brutality, violence, rape and torture—all would stop tomorrow if the will to stop them existed, or if the rest of us devised means to compel them to be stopped.”

The details of the Anti-war agenda  can be seen in the link here> http://www.unicef.org/sowc96/antiwar.htm

There is so much to be done to improve the plight of children even in peace times, from combating poverty to malnutrition to illiteracy. Violent conflicts not only impede them, but divert the focus towards destruction rather than construction.

To prevent continued cycles of conflict, education must seek to promote peace and tolerance, not fuel hatred and suspicion.

Disputes may be inevitable, but violence is not.

Till we drive this idea home, the remarks of Garcia Machel, ex-representative of UN Secretary General  and widow of Nelson Mandela shall sound as fresh as ever,

“It is unforgivable that children are assaulted, violated, murdered and yet our conscience is not revolted nor our sense of dignity challenged. This represents a fundamental crisis of our civilization.”

Indeed.

Anyways, let us still wish a Happy New Year to each other.

http://pakteahouse.net/2014/12/31/can-we-spare-the-children-of-our-planet-from-violence/

Thousands of miles away, in a candle vigil for the children of the Peshawar attack, the Mayor of Mississauga, Ontario, Canada, Bonnie Crombie said,

“The children lost in Peshawar were not just Pakistani kids; they were our children, the children of this planet.”

I shuddered to imagine the paranoia of millions of parents in Pakistan on the day that their children will have to go back to school after winter break. And along with them, my mind wandered to the other children on the planet – the children who have lost their lives and so much more.

I couldn’t help but think of the 200 plus school girls that Boko Haram kidnapped in Nigeria. Will these girls ever be able to return to school again?

Last September, Gaza was short of almost 490 school-going children, as schools reopened after a 50-day war with Israel during the summers. Many of the kids who survived had lost their homes and family members. The Israeli kid who died after rockets were fired from Gaza was also a child of the same planet.

How can one not think of the millions of displaced children of Syria currently spending their fourth winter in refugee shelters, attending makeshift schools in the camps, while nearly 14,000 have perished?

My heart aches for the children who have been brutally beheaded by Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS) for not converting. Hearing the spine-chilling stories of Yazidi minor girls who are being sold as sex slaves makes me tremble.

“They will sell my girl for $10.”

This cry of a Kurd father from Sinjar haunts me to date. So does the recount of a 19-year-old  Yazidi girl who managed to escape:

“One day we were given clothes that looked like dance costumes and were told to bathe and wear them. One girl killed herself in the bathroom. She cut her wrists and hanged herself.”

In a lesser heard Central African Republican, almost 6,000 to 10,000 children  have been snatched of their school lives and have been forcibly recruited as child soldiers, some being as young as eight-years-old. There are child soldiers recruited by Iraqi militias and ISIS too. Amnesty International reports there are 250,000 child soldiers world over.

Closer to home, around the time of Malala Yousafzai’s incident, 12-year-old Mehzar Zehra  was shot on her way to school and while her father became the victim of target killing for being Shia. I also think of little Rimsha Masih, who had to languish in jail, and Aitzaz Hasan from Hangu, who lost his life while averting a bomb attack in his school. Let’s not forget the Hazara kids who either perished or were injured in Mastung and other attacks on the Hazara community. Let’s not forget the hundreds of children who have died during the drone attacks in Waziristan.

Forgive me for not being able to enumerate every child who was lost to meaningless wars happening around us.

Echoing Mayor Crombie, each of these are children of the same planet. And it is incumbent upon humanity to ensure them a safe childhood.

According to a UN report,

“More than one billion children under the age of 18 were living in areas in conflict or emerging from war. Of these, an estimated 300 million were under age five and more than 18 million children were refugees or internally displaced.”

As the calendar flips to 2015, there will hardly be anything new for these children. Those who have perished shall sleep below heaps of earth with their innocent dreams buried in their hearts. Those alive will continue to bear the trauma of bare survival, feeling lucky to have lived another day, no matter how.

This is not all.

Beyond active warfare, vested interests in media, state or faith-based groups also subject children to psychological abuse by preaching warmongering and hatred. A child’s video on Memri TV telling tender Palestinian children about evil Jews, a seven-year-old boy from a madrassa who sings jihad  against infidels, or a 10-year-old boy from a Gurukul who spews hate and desires to combat Muslims – these are just a few examples, and not a concoction of my mind. Even on social media, we violate war-torn kids by sharing gory pictures of disfigured or dead children to evoke emotional propaganda.

Is this the quality of life the children of our planet deserve?

Why are we so disgustingly insensitive about how detrimental something like this could be to a child’s health and potential? Would you put your child through this physical or psychological politics of hate and violence? Why do we fail to think of the long-lasting adverse consequences of violence on their tender minds and bodies in the form of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)?

Do these children even have an idea of the geopolitics, war on resources or hegemony of sects or tribes, for which they are subjected to the worst form of violations?

We take pride in the scientific advances which have reduced the child mortality to rate more than 70% in the last century. We also brag about the human progress, having created the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC), which recognizes that children are people who have rights that

must be respected equally to those of adults.  The convention has been ratified by majority of the world’s nations.

A lot may have been achieved in terms of legislations, and with the slogan of ‘every child counts’. However, one billion children living in conflict zones is a grim figure. Several UN reports reveal a change of war tactics, in current conflicts, that have made children more directly exposed to warfare. This only makes the future grimmer. http://www.un.org/rights/impact.htm

Hope is rekindled, time and again, when voices like Satyarthi or Malala or Edhi  are recognized? The bitter truth remains that the scale of war industry is too huge to be countered by few sincere souls.

Wars are not going to disappear overnight, but we can at least mitigate their effects and ensure that they do not target children and women. It may be a wishful thinking that warmongering ‘vested interests’ may be put aside someday for the sake of our  children. One wonders what is the critical number of affected children needed to get that.

With specific concerns for the children affected by violence, UNICEF has put forth an Anti-war Agenda enlisting a series of steps, which they believe are realistic and effective to  improve the well-being of children in situations of conflict.

The report says:

“The Anti-war Agenda rests on the proposition that much of the tragedy befalling children is preventable. The evil deeds that this report documents are, after all, driven by human behavior. Children are suffering as a direct and immediate consequence of the decisions of adults. If conflict seems, at times, to be inevitable, there is nothing inevitable about children bearing the brunt of its consequences. Brutality, violence, rape and torture—all would stop tomorrow if the will to stop them existed, or if the rest of us devised means to compel them to be stopped.”

The details of the Anti-war agenda  can be seen in the link here> http://www.unicef.org/sowc96/antiwar.htm

There is so much to be done to improve the plight of children even in peace times, from combating poverty to malnutrition to illiteracy. Violent conflicts not only impede them, but divert the focus towards destruction rather than construction.

To prevent continued cycles of conflict, education must seek to promote peace and tolerance, not fuel hatred and suspicion.

Disputes may be inevitable, but violence is not.

Till we drive this idea home, the remarks of Garcia Machel, ex-representative of UN Secretary General  and widow of Nelson Mandela shall sound as fresh as ever,

“It is unforgivable that children are assaulted, violated, murdered and yet our conscience is not revolted nor our sense of dignity challenged. This represents a fundamental crisis of our civilization.”

Indeed.

Anyways, let us still wish a Happy New Year to each other.

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Thousands of miles away, in a candle vigil for the children of the Peshawar attack, the Mayor of Mississauga, Ontario, Canada, Bonnie Crombie said,

“The children lost in Peshawar were not just Pakistani kids; they were our children, the children of this planet.”

I shuddered to imagine the paranoia of millions of parents in Pakistan on the day that their children will have to go back to school after winter break. And along with them, my mind wandered to the other children on the planet – the children who have lost their lives and so much more.

I couldn’t help but think of the 200 plus school girls that Boko Haram kidnapped in Nigeria. Will these girls ever be able to return to school again?

Last September, Gaza was short of almost 490 school-going children, as schools reopened after a 50-day war with Israel during the summers. Many of the kids who survived had lost their homes and family members. The Israeli kid who died after rockets were fired from Gaza was also a child of the same planet.

How can one not think of the millions of displaced children of Syria currently spending their fourth winter in refugee shelters, attending makeshift schools in the camps, while nearly 14,000 have perished?

My heart aches for the children who have been brutally beheaded by Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS) for not converting. Hearing the spine-chilling stories of Yazidi minor girls who are being sold as sex slaves makes me tremble.

“They will sell my girl for $10.”

This cry of a Kurd father from Sinjar haunts me to date. So does the recount of a 19-year-old  Yazidi girl who managed to escape:

“One day we were given clothes that looked like dance costumes and were told to bathe and wear them. One girl killed herself in the bathroom. She cut her wrists and hanged herself.”

In a lesser heard Central African Republican, almost 6,000 to 10,000 children  have been snatched of their school lives and have been forcibly recruited as child soldiers, some being as young as eight-years-old. There are child soldiers recruited by Iraqi militias and ISIS too. Amnesty International reports there are 250,000 child soldiers world over.

Closer to home, around the time of Malala Yousafzai’s incident, 12-year-old Mehzar Zehra  was shot on her way to school and while her father became the victim of target killing for being Shia. I also think of little Rimsha Masih, who had to languish in jail, and Aitzaz Hasan from Hangu, who lost his life while averting a bomb attack in his school. Let’s not forget the Hazara kids who either perished or were injured in Mastung and other attacks on the Hazara community. Let’s not forget the hundreds of children who have died during the drone attacks in Waziristan.

Forgive me for not being able to enumerate every child who was lost to meaningless wars happening around us.

Echoing Mayor Crombie, each of these are children of the same planet. And it is incumbent upon humanity to ensure them a safe childhood.

According to a UN report,

“More than one billion children under the age of 18 were living in areas in conflict or emerging from war. Of these, an estimated 300 million were under age five and more than 18 million children were refugees or internally displaced.”

As the calendar flips to 2015, there will hardly be anything new for these children. Those who have perished shall sleep below heaps of earth with their innocent dreams buried in their hearts. Those alive will continue to bear the trauma of bare survival, feeling lucky to have lived another day, no matter how.

This is not all.

Beyond active warfare, vested interests in media, state or faith-based groups also subject children to psychological abuse by preaching warmongering and hatred. A child’s video on Memri TV telling tender Palestinian children about evil Jews, a seven-year-old boy from a madrassa who sings jihad  against infidels, or a 10-year-old boy from a Gurukul who spews hate and desires to combat Muslims – these are just a few examples, and not a concoction of my mind. Even on social media, we violate war-torn kids by sharing gory pictures of disfigured or dead children to evoke emotional propaganda.

Is this the quality of life the children of our planet deserve?

Why are we so disgustingly insensitive about how detrimental something like this could be to a child’s health and potential? Would you put your child through this physical or psychological politics of hate and violence? Why do we fail to think of the long-lasting adverse consequences of violence on their tender minds and bodies in the form of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)?

Do these children even have an idea of the geopolitics, war on resources or hegemony of sects or tribes, for which they are subjected to the worst form of violations?

We take pride in the scientific advances which have reduced the child mortality to rate more than 70% in the last century. We also brag about the human progress, having created the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC), which recognizes that children are people who have rights that

must be respected equally to those of adults.  The convention has been ratified by majority of the world’s nations.

A lot may have been achieved in terms of legislations, and with the slogan of ‘every child counts’. However, one billion children living in conflict zones is a grim figure. Several UN reports reveal a change of war tactics, in current conflicts, that have made children more directly exposed to warfare. This only makes the future grimmer. http://www.un.org/rights/impact.htm

Hope is rekindled, time and again, when voices like Satyarthi or Malala or Edhi  are recognized? The bitter truth remains that the scale of war industry is too huge to be countered by few sincere souls.

Wars are not going to disappear overnight, but we can at least mitigate their effects and ensure that they do not target children and women. It may be a wishful thinking that warmongering ‘vested interests’ may be put aside someday for the sake of our  children. One wonders what is the critical number of affected children needed to get that.

With specific concerns for the children affected by violence, UNICEF has put forth an Anti-war Agenda enlisting a series of steps, which they believe are realistic and effective to  improve the well-being of children in situations of conflict.

The report says:

“The Anti-war Agenda rests on the proposition that much of the tragedy befalling children is preventable. The evil deeds that this report documents are, after all, driven by human behavior. Children are suffering as a direct and immediate consequence of the decisions of adults. If conflict seems, at times, to be inevitable, there is nothing inevitable about children bearing the brunt of its consequences. Brutality, violence, rape and torture—all would stop tomorrow if the will to stop them existed, or if the rest of us devised means to compel them to be stopped.”

The details of the Anti-war agenda  can be seen in the link here> http://www.unicef.org/sowc96/antiwar.htm

There is so much to be done to improve the plight of children even in peace times, from combating poverty to malnutrition to illiteracy. Violent conflicts not only impede them, but divert the focus towards destruction rather than construction.

To prevent continued cycles of conflict, education must seek to promote peace and tolerance, not fuel hatred and suspicion.

Disputes may be inevitable, but violence is not.

Till we drive this idea home, the remarks of Garcia Machel, ex-representative of UN Secretary General  and widow of Nelson Mandela shall sound as fresh as ever,

“It is unforgivable that children are assaulted, violated, murdered and yet our conscience is not revolted nor our sense of dignity challenged. This represents a fundamental crisis of our civilization.”

Indeed.

Anyways, let us still wish a Happy New Year to each other. Read the rest of this entry »


Kis ko kahoon,
Naya Saal Mubarak ho?
Kya un gharon ko kahoon
Jin mein udaas hain bachon ke kamrey
Jin mein veeran hain unke nanhe bister
Jin ki khooti per tangey kaprey,
Abhi tak unki khushbu se hain ter,
Jinme kitabein abhi tak hain phaili,
Jinme khiloney abi tak hain bikhrey?

Ya pher kahoon
Naya Saal Mubarak,
Uss gharon ke baaqi basiyon ko
Jin ke qadam baar baar
kamron me hain  lauttey,
Un Bachon ko uthaney,
Jo gehri neend hain so chukey,
Ya uss Maa ki awaaz ko kahoon
Jo bachon ko hai khane ki mez per bulati
Mager koi jawab nahin hai paati,
Ya un halkaan siskiyon ko kahoon
Jo in phailey huwe kamron ke
khiloney, kitabein, bister, kaprey,
Samet ker rakhne ki taqat nahi rakhtey
Ya un badnaseeb haathon ko kahoon
Jo khud apne khwaab
daba aye hain mano mitti taley

Ya pher  un zaalimon ko kahoon,
Naya Saal Mubarak,
Jo pher se kisi nayi darsgaah
ki tabaahi ki tayyari
mein magan hongey,
Ya shayad un hukmraanon ko kahoon,
Jo kayee hazaaron mertaba,
“Masoom jaanon ki ziya ki rajish”,
Ka dilee izhaar hain kertey
Pher hain khamosh ho jaatey
Aur her baar pher usi tarah
Behisee ke bilon mein hain dubak jaatey.

Kis ko kahoon,
Naya Saal Mubarak ho?

School kids

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